Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts
Thursday, 6 September 2012
Getting Unstuck
Every one of us has experienced a "dark time" in our lives. There is not a person on who is spared that feeling of falling into emotional and mental quicksand from where there is no respite and no matter what you do to try to extricate yourself from those circumstances all you manage is to make things worse and you are left with the feeling that your stuck in a never ending tunnel of darkness.
While it is true that everyone experiences these feelings and thoughts from time it is a fact that not everyone chooses to advertise them. There are those who get so hopelessly lost in their problems that in time they become the problem. There are others who choose to smile through their problems while wallowing in misery, while others still select the many other ways of trudging through their worst times.
If you are feeling blue or that darkness has descended upon you and you feel alone, your not you need to stop with the self pity if you want to move on and away from your problems. Take solace in the fact that you at present are one of the millions or even billions dealing with issues you find hard to physically, emotionally and mentally process and deal with. No one is spared this drama and trauma it is just a matter of time when we all need to trudge through these circumstances.
Even if you think that there are those who seem to float through life with no worries but that is never the case. Such people just know how to deal with their problems constructively while controlling their innate urge to wallow in their miseries and pity themselves as most do. The key is to focus on the issues at hand not on how you feel. Stating you are a "highly emotional person" is just another way of saying I am incapable of dealing with life and more prone to creating drama and suffering trauma rathe then resolving my problems. Being "Emotional" and "Sensitive" is an excuse which you think may work but in reality it only hurts and harms you.
The next time you feel like indulging in an orgy of self pity or are envying another for succeeding when you feel your failing, give the other person the credit for focussing and resolving their problems, not fixating on themselves and how cheated, hurt, pained, small, etc etc they feel in the same circumstances. Remember everyone deals with situations, circumstances and problems differently. If you fail where others succeed then it is you who needs to take charge of yourself and do whatever it takes to stop yourself from getting out of whatever you feel trapped in.
Envying someone else is a waste of time. You need to assess your situation, focus on your problems and just get on with resolving your issues. Whatever your issues you need to take responsibility and work through whatever crops up as you are empowered to resolve your own issues.As a therapist I have heard, seen and assisted many out of this state of being "Stuck" and I have discovered that the key to getting unstuck always lies with the person who is stuck. It is only when you are willing to make an effort to work on yourself that you will discover choices and options to resolve your problems open out to you that you felt were not options before.
My book "Help Yourself Get Unstuck*" was written as a tool to help others navigate through the worst times to get to the very best of themselves and their lives. The book contains exercises, visualizations, mantras and other techniques that allow you to take control of yourself and your circumstances, accept responsibility, forgive yourself and others, let go of the past, make choices and reassess your options in order to help yourself get unstuck and live the life you desire.
* Help Yourself Get Unstuck is available online at:
Smashwords :https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210841#longdescr
Sunday, 30 January 2011
The Shift: From Broken Hearts to Anger
As mentioned in my earlier blogs I am a sceptic of 2012 and what the "End of the Worlder's" define as "The Shift". I have always felt that 'the Shift' is an energetic change which will result in a spiritual evolution of our world. As a spiritual councellor and energy therapist I had noted a trend which started in October 2012 which I termed as the "Epidemic of Broken Hearts" (ttp://healingboutique.blogspot.com/2010/11/shift-and-broken-hearts.html?spref=bl).
In the last two months I have noticed a new development, I have been consulted by lots of people who are experiencing inexplanable emotional fragility, skin allergies, odd boil formations, cysts and other painful growths, excima, overeating, weight that just does not want to leave certain areas of one's body. All of these are simply physical manifestations of a variety of deeply suppressed emotions which with the passing of time have calcified into anger. I was only able to identify the common theme of anger when I noticed that each and every one of these patients I worked on had a lot of energetic fire within which I witnessed leaving their energetic body. In the last two days I have actually had some of my more sensitive past patients call to inquire what their dreams of being on fire meant!
Anger is a very dangerous emotion and is a very physical equivalent of fire, it is catching. Anger is a dangerous emotion it is tremendously contageous and one can observe mass anger in the Middle East just now. The masses in Egypt, the Yemen, Algeria, Tunisia and it is rumoured even Lebanon have found an outlet for decades of unvocalised feelings, emotions and anger at being politically, economically, financially, psychologically and emotionally suppressed in their demonstrations.
Anger is very complicated. It is actually an emotion in itself and yet it can also be the end result of various emotions and/or any amount of physical, psychological and emotional situations or a combination them all. It is very difficult one to advise someone how to deal and live with anger. Some say express it and others to suppress it. Suppression results in a plethoria of physical and psychological manifestations as can be noted from the varying patients I have seen recently.
On the other hand anger expressed is also not a solution, but an severe expression of ones feelings and emotions, which in most cases fuels or worsens most situations. The expression of anger leaves one empty, depressed and low. All of which can actually lead to someone feeling angrier! Anger begets anger. If you get angry and express your anger it is hihgly likely that the person at the receiving end will return your anger and set of a chain reaction with no end. In such a situation there is no alternative then to "turn the other cheek".
Anger when expressed sets of a chain of reactions in our physical bodies which range from high blood pressure to the release of chemical secretions which are harmful to one's body. There is no doubt that anger has an advserse effect on ones mental state it clouds one's judgement, distracts one from concentrating thereby frustrating one even more and fuelling one's anger further. Energetically anger lets down one's energetic immunity and breaks down filters which protect you from energetic, emotional and physical ailments.
So what is the solution? At the Healingboutique advises another alternative, to deal and work through anger without expressing it while relieving the suppressed emotion. Here is how to work on your anger::
1. address what caused the anger and sitting to logically look into the issue. In lots of cases the cause of anger is so old it is invalid with regards to one's present circumstances;
2. forgive it is the most important thing to break the cycle of anger. (we highly recommend the following excercise www.healingboutique.net/?page_id=681). One needs o forgive and let go of past situations so one can be free of the past and enjoy the present.
3. physical excercise to rid oneself of all the chemical toxins produced in a state of anger which if left unexpended would actually result in further urges to be angry;
4. Yoga, meditation and prayer all allow us to become more aware and consious of our emotions thereby giving one control one's anger. Meditation and prayer are also cathartic, they bring old suppressed issues to the surface so we can deal with them adequately.
In addition to steps 1-4 we strongly recommend one to three sessions with a holistic therapist to release past energies of anger stored within ones energetic body.
In the last two months I have noticed a new development, I have been consulted by lots of people who are experiencing inexplanable emotional fragility, skin allergies, odd boil formations, cysts and other painful growths, excima, overeating, weight that just does not want to leave certain areas of one's body. All of these are simply physical manifestations of a variety of deeply suppressed emotions which with the passing of time have calcified into anger. I was only able to identify the common theme of anger when I noticed that each and every one of these patients I worked on had a lot of energetic fire within which I witnessed leaving their energetic body. In the last two days I have actually had some of my more sensitive past patients call to inquire what their dreams of being on fire meant!
Anger is a very dangerous emotion and is a very physical equivalent of fire, it is catching. Anger is a dangerous emotion it is tremendously contageous and one can observe mass anger in the Middle East just now. The masses in Egypt, the Yemen, Algeria, Tunisia and it is rumoured even Lebanon have found an outlet for decades of unvocalised feelings, emotions and anger at being politically, economically, financially, psychologically and emotionally suppressed in their demonstrations.
Anger is very complicated. It is actually an emotion in itself and yet it can also be the end result of various emotions and/or any amount of physical, psychological and emotional situations or a combination them all. It is very difficult one to advise someone how to deal and live with anger. Some say express it and others to suppress it. Suppression results in a plethoria of physical and psychological manifestations as can be noted from the varying patients I have seen recently.
On the other hand anger expressed is also not a solution, but an severe expression of ones feelings and emotions, which in most cases fuels or worsens most situations. The expression of anger leaves one empty, depressed and low. All of which can actually lead to someone feeling angrier! Anger begets anger. If you get angry and express your anger it is hihgly likely that the person at the receiving end will return your anger and set of a chain reaction with no end. In such a situation there is no alternative then to "turn the other cheek".
Anger when expressed sets of a chain of reactions in our physical bodies which range from high blood pressure to the release of chemical secretions which are harmful to one's body. There is no doubt that anger has an advserse effect on ones mental state it clouds one's judgement, distracts one from concentrating thereby frustrating one even more and fuelling one's anger further. Energetically anger lets down one's energetic immunity and breaks down filters which protect you from energetic, emotional and physical ailments.
So what is the solution? At the Healingboutique advises another alternative, to deal and work through anger without expressing it while relieving the suppressed emotion. Here is how to work on your anger::
1. address what caused the anger and sitting to logically look into the issue. In lots of cases the cause of anger is so old it is invalid with regards to one's present circumstances;
2. forgive it is the most important thing to break the cycle of anger. (we highly recommend the following excercise www.healingboutique.net/?page_id=681). One needs o forgive and let go of past situations so one can be free of the past and enjoy the present.
3. physical excercise to rid oneself of all the chemical toxins produced in a state of anger which if left unexpended would actually result in further urges to be angry;
4. Yoga, meditation and prayer all allow us to become more aware and consious of our emotions thereby giving one control one's anger. Meditation and prayer are also cathartic, they bring old suppressed issues to the surface so we can deal with them adequately.
In addition to steps 1-4 we strongly recommend one to three sessions with a holistic therapist to release past energies of anger stored within ones energetic body.
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